I texted my neighbor to ask for help today. I haven't initiated contact with him since our falling out. He has asked me to let out his dog, and to please come look when it's face was swollen. I did the things he asked of me, but I've been very careful not to ask for anything in return.
My AC hasn't been working. I knew he could fix it, if he only would, and I knew I could negotiate a fair price with him. One we could both live with. I had a meeting with a new petsitting client after work and so I got home really late this evening.
I had texted to ask if he could work on my air this week, then I texted and told him how much it was worth to me (in dollars).
When I got home from meeting with my new client, there was a note in the door that my air was repaired. He accepted the amount I told him I could pay. No haggling... and that was it. When I took him his money, we visited a bit. It was ok. Not weird, he wasn't trying to get me to agree to do anything back for him, and wasn't prying into what I have going on.
It was really nice. And it felt like I was establishing myself in a new place. I feel like maybe, just maybe he knows I'm no longer a doormat.
I know it's a weird thing for a grown person to say... but really I'm not a doormat.
I used to let myself get treated like one.
It's nice to have the confidence not to do that anymore.
:)
Between you and me, it was a really scary thing to do. But I did it!
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